Tuesday, 30 December 2014

Five Things I Won't Do In 2015


As the New Year comes racing towards us, I can't help but reminisce over 2014. 

In all complete honesty, it has possibly been one of the worst years I've ever experienced. And while I'm naturally an optimistic person, it has been difficult to see many positives. Which, in itself, is something that probably upsets me more than the things I've actually struggled with. Naturally, I'm looking forward to what I always see as, a 'clean slate', and making five changes that will hopefully aid 2015 in being a much better year. 

Firstly, I don't see this as a New Years Resolution as find them impossible to stick with and personally, a complete waste of time and energy (kudos to you if you can see them through - you're a better person than I am). Rather, these are five different ways of thinking, which I feel will result in a more content year and overall better mindset.

Five Things I Won't Do In 2015

Strive to control my life : One of the biggest disappointments this year has been not getting on a Teacher Training course for the third year in a row. It has really tested my confidence and self belief, to the point where I think I may not apply again. However, I've realised this disappointment has stemmed from believing that I can, in some way, plan my future - which is completely untrue. Life is unpredictable and if constantly battle against that, I will ultimately be disappointed by the outcome. 

Compare myself to others : Similarly to the point above - not getting what you want and what you work for, results in a natural feeling of 'why am I not good enough?' 'why can I not do the things x person does' and generally leaves you feeling inadequate. In reality, your strengths lie elsewhere and it's just a matter of finding what you're naturally good at. Experiment and say yes to experiences you may usually say no to and you never know what you could find. 

Concentrate on the negative : I think I've spent a lot of 2014 focusing on the bad, what has happened or what could potentially go wrong. It's easier said than done, when it seems everything is turning to crap before your very eyes, but there is always some kind of a silver lining, even if you have to search harder than usual to find it. Just keep searching. 

Be my own worst critic : I'm definitely guilty of being hard on myself, perhaps more so than ever this year, but I deserve my own patience & kindness that I give so freely to others. And the same applies to others who are critical of every mistake they make; there's only one version of you and you, of all people, should not be making yourself feel bad for things that are out of your control. 

Live in the past : Finally, I will no longer live in the, 'I wish I'd...' 'I should've...' 'I could've...' - the past is done and dusted. For the most part nothing can be changed and so it shouldn't take up any emotional energy in the present. You live and learn from your experiences, no matter how good or bad. The past is essentially the foundation of who you are right now, the choices you've made and  the person that you've become, which is something to be happy about. 

Overall, I won't let this year make me hard & miserable. It has taught me a lot, about myself and others, and there are lessons to be learned in even the hardest of times. So I'm ready for another 365 days, no matter what they bring. And I hope 2015 is a wonderful year for you too!

Happy New Year!
xo
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24 comments

  1. such great tips, sorry to hear about your teacher training course, i always try to remember everything happens for a reason, and something better will come your way!

    Rachel // Style Soup

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  2. I wholeheartedly wish you a very happy new year ! I hope that it'll bring you what you wish for and the ability to deal with what you would rather have done without.
    I'll be sure to keep your tips in mind because they're true for each and everyone of us I believe.
    I can't wait to read more of your inspirational posts in 2015 !

    Feathers and Brushes | Swiss | Beauty & Lifestyle

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  3. This was a great post. Thank you for the honesty that you've shared in it. I am an optimist like you - but honestly, 2014 has definitely been the year for me where big plans fall through. I need to focus on leaving behind a lot of these things as well.

    Sending lots of love and light your way for a wonderful 2015!

    xx Kathryn
    http://www.throughthethicket.ca

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  4. These are all things I need to do as well, my worst habit is comparing myself to others and then feeling down. I've also mentioned you in my favourite blogs of 2014 which is the last post on my blog lovely :)

    Beauty and Lifestyle Blog

    xx

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  5. Have a great new year. You definitely seem to have a good attitude to life. Gemma x

    Beautiful Life as I know it

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  6. These are the best kind of resolutions to make Sam! I hope you have a very fulfilling and happy 2015! Lots of love!

    TheConscienceFund

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  7. this is a beautiful post and i hope you achieve all these things in 2015! xx

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  8. I hope 2015 gives you what you deserve, which i see is so much. I think this post is great and really inspiring.
    I know how hard is feeling down and start a new year that way, but as you say, things can and will change. I can tell you that I started 2014 feeling the same way, I felt lonely, a little lost...., but it has ended great! What I'm trying to say is the rain stops and the sun shines at the end. I'm sure you are gonna see the sun soon :)
    Kisses from Spain and feliz año nuevo <3

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  9. This is such a wonderful way of looking at resolutions! I hope 2015 is a better year for you, well done for staying positive despite the bad year xx

    Ioanna | Hearting.co.uk | Check out my 100 follower GIVEAWAY

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  10. This is such a great attitude to have going into a new year. I'm sorry to hear that 2014 was a bit of a disappointment, hopefully 2015 is your year :)

    Tessa / Bramble & Thorn

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  11. This was such a lovely post, the best of luck with your resolutions!

    Heather, porcelainbeautyx

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  12. LOVE this post, I think resolutions about not doing things would totally be more effective. Great way to freshen up new years. I definitely need to work on these things as well.

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  13. I love the spin on things you won't do, rather than things you will. The things you are doing can be just as destructive, and be in the way of the goals you're trying to reach. x

    nueyork.blogspot.com

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  14. I love this post! I hope to not do some of the things you've listed to. I think we can all be our harshest critic and own worst enemy!

    Wishing you a bright 2015 full of lovely surprises you don't expect! :-)

    Michelle | www.sugardustandstarlight.co.uk

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  15. I agree with all of them, i need to think more about me and try to find my place.
    Happy new year Sam!!!
    besos

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  16. I'm wishing you all the very best for 2015, you're such a kind person and your positive outlook even when times are incredibly difficult is so inspiring. Don't ever forget that you're wonderful! <3 xo

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  17. Sorry to hear about the teaching course but i'm sure things will work out for you!

    Lizzy from Nomad Notebook

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  18. What a lovely post to read and I love how its different from what to do in 2015 type of posts!
    xoMadiha

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  19. I liked this post so much! I think if we all could stop doing these things we would be much happier people. I wish you that 2015 would be a much better year than 2014 was! x
    www.meetmeonthebalcony.com

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  20. im sorry to hear about your bad year, i hope 2015 brings better things for you. love your blog x

    dontcrycowboy

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  21. This was a lovely post. Really heartfelt. So thank you for being so honest.

    I do hope that 2015 will be your year.

    The points you raise are exactly on point and I should apply them to my own life. I think it is too easy to concentrate on the negative. And it is important to love one self. I am slowly learning that lesson.

    Just popped by to let you know i have nominated you for The Very inspiring Blogger Award. You can check out my post about it here: http://www.dandelionblue.co.uk...

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