In a world where we're almost expected to have our shit together by the time we're 30, I can't help but feel a little concerned.
Careers, children, settling down, buying a house, owning a car, generally being a successful & contributing member of society... Just a few social pressures that I feel are weighing heavy on my shoulders at the moment. I don't know about you - but I don't have any of the above. But you know what? That's okay...
Something I noticed lately is that both my online & offline friends seem to be in a similar situation. Your twenties are a scary time, it would seem. Maybe you're leaving University and trying to find the career at the end of the tunnel, or perhaps your life has completely been flipped on its head lately; what you always knew has gone and you've just found yourself lost. No direction, no idea where to turn or what to do next.
Instead of letting these un-written rules, of what we supposedly should have achieved by now, weigh you down - I'm proposing we just take a breath, shake them off and work hard at what makes you happy. Chances are, you've already accomplished something anyway; you're just too busy looking at what should've been and not what's already right in front of you.
Personally, I feel as though because I'm not doing something with my Spanish degree (what is, realistically, a great achievement in itself), that I'm somehow failing. That I haven't gotten onto a PGCE; again, failing. That I'm not working in an area that I love yet; failing. But what I am doing at the minute is taking my strengths (painting, writing, creating) and trying to make something from it in the meantime. It's not 'ideal', but then, what is? What is the ideal that I'm looking for? It may not even be out there, which makes me feel like it's more important than ever to concentrate & appreciate exactly what you do have now - however small it may seem.
There will always be people who land on their feet - dream job, perfect house, jet setting here, there & everywhere; but it's important not to compare yourself. We live in a society where people pick & choose everything that they share with others - and chances are, if you scratch below the surface - things aren't as perfect as they seem. (Have you seen the woman who photoshoped herself into pictures to trick her family & friends into believing she went to Thailand, when really she was sat on her sofa? - possibly a tad extreme, but you get the point).
What I'm trying to say is - you're not alone. Touch wood, there is still a hell of a lot of time left to achieve everything and more, that you want in life. There's no rush, no imaginary clock or list of things we should have done by the time we're a certain age. Lets not lose our heads to something that doesn't even exist.
Work hard, stay humble and keep yourself happy & you never know what may come your way.