Sunday, 20 July 2014

Self-Love : Being Kind To You


"Commit to loving yourself completely. It's the most radical thing you will do in your lifetime." 
- Andrea Gibson

In a day & age where nothing is ever good enough; fast enough; advanced enough or perfect enough, it's extremely hard to accept and acknowledge that who you are - inside & out - right now, is the best version of yourself that you can be. And that that person is amazing, worthy of love, care and respect.

Like almost everyone on the planet; I've experienced some kind of self-hate. Be it the way I looked, the way I acted, the person I thought I was - I've spent years criticising myself due to this imaginary idea of perfection. An idea implanted and passed down by the media, photoshop and general peer pressure. 

At 25, I can finally say enough is enough.  Life is entirely too short to hate the skin you're in. To feel bound by non-existent rules and ideals. It's time to love yourself, be kind to yourself and to shine from the inside out. Be your own superhero. Make your rules. BE YOURSELF. There's no-one else like you on this planet we call home and that in itself is a truly awesome thing. 


As with everything in life; it takes time, patience and practice. I still looked at these pictures with a whisper of 'why are my thighs so big?' and 'my arms look chubby' - but that body can do good things and if I stopped criticising it, perhaps it could do even better. 

So, here are some of my tips for self-love & kindness : 

- be your own best friend : how many times have you run to a friend in need and given them advice? how many times have you done the same for yourself? you're worthy of your own care. eat feel-good food, listen to your favourite song, run a bath, watch your favourite episode of OITNB. laugh. repeat. 

- keep moving forward : every morning is a new day, a fresh start and it's never too late to start making positive changes. you're not your past, you're the actions and thoughts of right now. make them count.

- acknowledge your feelings : if you're feeling sad, angry, disappointed; understand why. let it out. write it down. throw it away. know that it will not last forever. accept and appreciate what you're feeling, no one is happy all of the time and that's okay too. 

- invest in yourself : allow yourself an hour or so of every day to do something you love. be it blogging, creating, exercising, cooking. you owe it to yourself to feel happy & you're in complete control of that. 

- smile : the power of a smile is wonderful thing. try it :)

"It doesn't matter who you used to be; what matters is who you decide to be today. You are not your mistakes. You are not your mishaps. You are not your past. You are not your wounds. You can decide differently today and at every moment. Remember that. You are offered a new opportunity with each breath to think, decide, choose and act differently - in a way that supports you in a way that supports you in being all that you are capable of being. You are not less than. You are enough." - Brittany Josephina

I hope this is of some benefit to anyone feeling unworthy. It's not an egotistical thing to accept who & where you are right now and I think everyone should feel special within their own skin. I'd love to know what you think. 

What are your tips for self-love & kindness?
What makes you feel good?
xo

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20 comments

  1. This is truly a wonderful post, full of things we should not forget. Love the photos, you look absolutely beautiful! xx

    gyudynotesofbeauty.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you so much Gyudy :) I'm so pleased you enjoyed the post. And it's funny you should say that, because I'd actually just rolled out of bed and tied my hair up, haha! But I appreciate your kind words xx

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  2. I just love this post, and those photos of you are gorgeous. I love that one of you smiling :) self-love is the most important thing in life in my opinion and more people need to be less afraid of saying lovely things about themselves without being perceived as big-headed x

    Megan / pixiecrop.com

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    1. Thank you Megan! Really glad you liked it :) it is a shame that it's almost 'going against the grain' to say something/feel positively about yourself. There's a very big difference between bragging and feeling content. xx

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  3. This is such a lovely and inspirational post!

    Beauty and Lifestyle Blog

    xx

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  4. As someone who deals with self hatred on a daily basis this makes for a soothing read. I used to think by the time I was 30 Id be married, have kids have a successful career and big house. I only have one of those things and have spent my first yr in my 30s disliking everything there is that makes me, me. I love the way you've made these points so much so Im going to print this post and tape it to my fridge. Ive never had someone to tell me rhese things, to point me in the right direction and to frankly tell me that life is way too short to be choosing to waste my life by hating this person I already am.

    You look stunning in your pictures, u always do. Thank u for making me realise and hopefully start me on a journey to self love. Xxxxx

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    1. This means so much & I'm so genuinely pleased. Books like 'the power of now' May also be of some help, if you fancied ever reading further into these things. Big hugs to you xx

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  5. Love this post, I need to remind myself often that it's sometimes ok t fail. You jest need to keep going. X

    Mademoiselle-Lala.com

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    1. Exactly :) there's no shame in it. Everyone makes mistakes at some point or another. What matters is that you keep going xx

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  6. This post couldn't have come at a better time, as I've been feeling absolutely shite these days. I've had low confidence/self hate issues for the longest time and I definitely needed to read this. xxxxxx

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    1. I'm genuinely so pleased Stephanie :) you're a wonderful person & deserve all of your care and love xx

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  7. Since turning 25 I too am finally feeling more comfortable in my own skin and I'm so pleased. It's actually quite a relief to like who I am. Sure I'm not perfect, but being able to identify those things I would like to change is infinitely better than looking in the mirror and thinking that everything was wrong. xxx

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  8. Such a beautiful post Sam! really inspirational! love the photos! I really love your blog :)
    x
    Almu

    FeelBella

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  9. Wonderful post! So inspirational and just beautiful to read! I too used to be not so kind to myself, but I love me now :)

    xx

    Ms Jelena xx
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  10. Love this post! Keep moving forward is a great advice :) Thanks for sharing.

    Aissa // Aissa Carmela

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  11. I love this post, it was really motivational and in a non patronising way which is great. Glad you're finally feeling comfortable in your own skin too, and thanks for the advice! x

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  12. I thoroughly enjoyed this post, Sam. Keep up the good work!

    Sofia | palelily.blogspot.com

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  13. This is truly inspiring. Nice post. Thanks for sharing this.

    www.diaryofalifelover.com

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  14. This is such an inspiring post, exactly the kind of words I needed today. Thank you for them!
    Miglė x | Meet Me On The Balcony

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